Not everybody is eager to transition to a way of life that will have them relying on someone else for their health and wellbeing. But, as families often find out, solo living can become both burdensome and dangerous for their oldest members, even if they are resistant to alternatives. Let’s explore some ways that you can bring up the subject compassionately and effectively.
Begin With Positivity
You love your parents and want them to be safe and happy. That’s a pretty good place to start. Let them know that you want the best for them, that you want them to be able to live their lives fully, and that you want them to stay close so you can be with them as often as possible. Continuing care doesn’t have to mean assisted living facilities or nursing homes – a qualified agency like Special Touch Home Care can send the help directly to them. They don’t need to change their life in any way – they’re just getting a little extra support.
Most people respond well to reassurance when the need for serious talk arises. You want to let them know that this is an important topic, but also that you’re only considering the best options available, you want them to be involved, and that nothing could possibly detract from the love and respect you have for them. They took care of you, and you feel responsible for making sure they are cared for as well.
It will, of course, be helpful to outline the facts and benefits of home care. For example, falls are known to be the leading cause of senior citizen injury and death. Someone to aid with mobility, who’s trained to identify potential dangers in the home, will be supportive without any negative impacts to life otherwise. Further, tasks that – quite frankly – most people don’t enjoy doing themselves anyway can be taken up by an extra pair of hands that are only there to make life easier. Cooking, light housekeeping, travel to and from appointments – all are tasks that can be handled by someone else.
Remember The Respect
When speaking with your elderly parent about home healthcare, you want to remember to remain respectful. You have a goal that you need to accomplish, but the dynamics are now backward. While they’ve spent their lives looking after you, you are both now facing the opposite situation. But, they are still your parents, they gave completely of themselves for your benefit, and it’s important to keep in mind that it might be difficult for them to accept the change. So, listen to their concerns, accept that they may be resistant, and try to focus on what’s important. One conversation may not be enough, so you’ll want to avoid hostile feelings that may make things more difficult in the future.
Contact Your New York Home Healthcare Agency
If you need support or are ready to move forward, reaching out to Special Touch Home Care at any time is a good decision. We are always here to help guide you and can provide much more information regarding the homecare process, and what can be offered, than you can probably manage on your own. Don’t hesitate to reach out: our 40 years of experience in New York home care are here to help.